The Ultimate Dating Checklist:
Know Who’s Worth Your Time (Before, During & After a Date)
In this breakthrough exercise, you will learn to recognise the toxic patterns in your relationships, patterns you may not even realise you’re repeating.
Who is this for?
This checklist is for anyone tired of wasting time on the wrong people and who wants to approach dating with clarity and confidence. Whether you’re new to dating, returning after a break, or stuck in a cycle of bad dates, this tool will help you spot red flags early and focus on connections that truly align with your values and goals.
This checklist will help:
Filter out the wrong people fast: Avoid wasting months (or years) on mismatched connections.
Stay grounded in reality: Focus on actions, not just words or chemistry.
Build self-trust: Learn to trust your instincts and make intentional dating choices.
Break free from emotional rollercoasters
Gain confidence in your dating decisions
Create space for healthier connections
Get Your Free Dating Checklist
STOP wasting time on the wrong people. Download the checklist to spot red flags before, during, and after the date.
*By downloading, you’re also joining my newsletter, "Secure Love and Relationship Growth", where we explore how to spot and unlearn toxic patterns, reconnect with yourself and build the relationships you truly deserve.
Benefits of This Transformative Practice
Master Emotional Boundaries
Learn to recognise intense chemistry without losing yourself or compromising your values.
Make Confident Dating Decisions
Feel empowered to avoid and act on red flags without second-guessing yourself.
Attract Aligned Partners
By filtering out mismatches, you’ll naturally create space for healthier, more fulfilling connections.
"The checklist helped me stay grounded and observant during a date. I noticed they weren’t asking me many questions, which made me reflect on what I truly value in a connection. It gave me the confidence to take things slow and pay attention to how the relationship unfolds rather than rushing in blindly."
- Maria L.
Meet Ellen Mouton
I’m Ellen, a mindfulness teacher and relationship coach specialising in emotional intelligence, attachment healing, and relationship dynamics. Over 26,000 students have taken my courses on InsightTimer, where I help people develop self-awareness, break toxic relationship patterns, and build secure, fulfilling connections.
I trained in mindfulness and presence-based practices through Eckhart Tolle’s Teacher of Presence programme. I combine deep self-awareness with practical, science-backed strategies to support lasting relationship transformation and personal growth.
FAQ
How it works, what you’ll learn, and why it’s the first step toward healthier love.
By using the checklist consistently, you’ll:
Save time by filtering out mismatches early.
Gain clarity on what you truly want in a partner.
Build confidence in your dating decisions, knowing you’re paying attention to the right signs.
The checklist is designed to guide you before, during, and after a date. Use it to:
Before the date: Evaluate if they’re worth meeting.
During the date: Observe how they show up and how you feel.
After the date: Reflect on the connection and decide if it’s worth pursuing.
That’s okay! The checklist is a tool to help you trust your instincts and reflect on your experience. If you’re unsure about something, take your time to process it. The goal is to help you stay grounded and intentional, not rush decisions.
You don’t need to pull out the checklist mid-date! Simply review the key points beforehand, like paying attention to how they treat you, whether the conversation flows naturally, and if they respect your boundaries. After the date, revisit the checklist to reflect on your observations.
Get Your Free Dating Checklist
STOP wasting time on the wrong people. Download the checklist to spot red flags before, during, and after the date.
*By downloading, you’re also joining my newsletter, "Secure Love and Relationship Growth", where we explore how to spot and unlearn toxic patterns, reconnect with yourself and build the relationships you truly deserve.
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